About Gina Pera

Our outdoor wedding, before we learned about ADHD. Notice the dripline.

My foray into the field of ADHD began by chance.  In 1999, I picked up a library book about the brain. And what I read changed my life and my husband’s life. Funny enough, that book was Dr. Daniel  Amen’s Change Your Brain, Change Your Life.

In that book, I read about something called Adult ADHD, and suddenly I had a clue why, as much as we loved each other, my then-fiancee and I were driving each other nuts!  Knowing that his education as a neurogenticist meant he could actually authenticate the science behind such a “condition,” I showed the book to him. “Doesn’t this sound like you as a kid?” I asked. ” And, well, doesn’t it sound like you now?”  He agreed. And off we went to navigate the mental healthcare maze. Meanwhile, I figured other “partners of” were in a similar position, so I started an online discussion group so we could all help each other find out way.

It’s not enough to say that I was stunned at the widespread ignorance about ADHD, including among professionals. Frankly, I was outraged. There is quite enough suffering in the world that cannot be prevented. The suffering that comes from unrecognized ADHD is not one of them. We have a strong knowledge base about ADHD. We have good treatment strategies. All we lack is more people willing to step into the 21st Century.

Deciding to put to use my background as a print journalist, I became a very persevering  advocate for better awareness and evidence-based treatment standards—by lecturing, writing, and leading discussion groups in Silicon Valley and a 600-member Internet group for the partners of adults with ADHD internationally.  Oh, and yes, you’ve probably seen my comments around the Internet. When you are an unpaid advocate for 10 years, you go to war with the army you have: a keyboard, a deep knowledge base, and the ability to type 350+wpm.

After a few years, the need became clear for a nuts-and-bolts guide to Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. We needed guide not only to understanding Adult ADHD symptoms but also the “emotional baggage” that comes with late-diagnosis — baggage carried by both partners in the relationship.

I also sought to provide readers with a consumers guide to Adult ADHD treatment strategies — the particulars of therapy to seek (and avoid), the medication protocol that so few prescribing physicians seemed to know about (and perhaps that’s why so many people had unnecessary side effects), and, that big deal breaker: how to get through a loved one’s “denial” about ADHD.

That’s why I wrote Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder (1201 Alarm Press, San Francisco).  I am grateful to the many top experts who granted interviews, fact-checked chapters, and endorsed the book. The book has won four national book awards and, last I checked, has 65 five-star reviews on Amazon.   It’s a guide I am thrilled to be able to hand to people who are struggling. (Because, after all, I couldn’t keep typing the same piecemeal advice in our support group for another 10 years!)

Book signing, after my presentation at the CHADD International Conference on ADHD, 2009

You can purchase the book at:

• the book’s website, where it comes with free shipping and free PDF of the book — uploadable to some electronic readers and useful for printing out pertinent pages for a loved one, therapist, physician, etc.
• Amazon.com, and Barnes & Noble.com
• Barnes & Noble stores. To locate a store near you, click here.

The book and my unpaid advocacy have been a giant labor of love for several years now, and is my greatest joy to have connected with so many thousands of people and played a small role in elevating their lives.

In addition to sharing the results of The ADHD Partner Survey, this blog will contain some book excerpts. I hope you will augment both with reader comments, so that public benefits from your hard-won knowledge. Your comments might just could profoundly change someone’s life.

You can learn more about my journalistic credentials, awards, portfolio, etc. at my very outdated website (yes, it needs updating, but no time right now!): http://www.GinaPera.com

Thank you for your interest in Adult ADHD, and please try to keep an open mind if you are just beginning to learn about it. One fact is clear: ADHD is real, and it affects real people’s lives. Maybe even your own or that of someone you love.

Best wishes,

Gina Pera
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