Comments on: How Does Adult ADHD Affect Parenting? http://adhdpartner.org/adult-adhd-and-parenting/how-does-adult-adhd-affect-parenting/ Findings from a survey querying the partners of adults with ADHD Wed, 25 Aug 2010 04:32:10 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Shanna http://adhdpartner.org/adult-adhd-and-parenting/how-does-adult-adhd-affect-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-6686 Shanna Sat, 02 Jan 2010 12:51:07 +0000 http://adhdpartner.org/?p=54#comment-6686 I'm wondering if the discipline difficulty is based on how hard it is for adults with ADHD to think in other than "now" time, combined with difficulty focusing on the needs of others. Beyond simply not disciplining, when I ask what my husband wants for our child in the long term and how he can contribute to that through parenting he is stumped. The idea of spending time with her doing things he is not personally interested in so he can know her better is hard. I have been asked to contribute to treatment goals for my husband and trying to define exactly how I would like to see our situation change is really hard to define. Things like discipline seem almost like a red herring - it seems to be something even deeper that involves the executive functions that happen to make up discipline. It has to do with time other than "now" and the needs of others along with planning and follow through. We have shifted into a parent-teenager relationship which I hate. Finding my role during the drug trial phase is difficult. I think the pages around 304 in is it you me or adult add are probably where I need to be focusing my effort. I’m wondering if the discipline difficulty is based on how hard it is for adults with ADHD to think in other than “now” time, combined with difficulty focusing on the needs of others. Beyond simply not disciplining, when I ask what my husband wants for our child in the long term and how he can contribute to that through parenting he is stumped. The idea of spending time with her doing things he is not personally interested in so he can know her better is hard.

I have been asked to contribute to treatment goals for my husband and trying to define exactly how I would like to see our situation change is really hard to define. Things like discipline seem almost like a red herring – it seems to be something even deeper that involves the executive functions that happen to make up discipline. It has to do with time other than “now” and the needs of others along with planning and follow through. We have shifted into a parent-teenager relationship which I hate. Finding my role during the drug trial phase is difficult. I think the pages around 304 in is it you me or adult add are probably where I need to be focusing my effort.

]]> By: Beth http://adhdpartner.org/adult-adhd-and-parenting/how-does-adult-adhd-affect-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-4306 Beth Sat, 23 May 2009 21:44:36 +0000 http://adhdpartner.org/?p=54#comment-4306 I had no idea so many others had an ADHD partner who wants to be the "fun" parent and never discipline. That leaves me to be the bad guy all the time. Not fair. But even though my husband is the "fun parent," he sometimes pushes the fun too far. The kids get wild. And then he cracks down on them. It's confusing and hurtful for them. I had no idea so many others had an ADHD partner who wants to be the “fun” parent and never discipline. That leaves me to be the bad guy all the time. Not fair. But even though my husband is the “fun parent,” he sometimes pushes the fun too far. The kids get wild. And then he cracks down on them. It’s confusing and hurtful for them.

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