http://adhdpartner.org/i-wish-id-known-earlier/what-do-you-wish-youd-known-earlier-about-adhd/ Findings from a survey querying the partners of adults with ADHD Tue, 06 Jan 2009 10:00:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 http://adhdpartner.org/i-wish-id-known-earlier/what-do-you-wish-youd-known-earlier-about-adhd/#comment-17 Katharine Sat, 23 Aug 2008 17:59:05 +0000 http://adhdpartner.org/?p=22#comment-17 Before my oldest son's AD/HD was diagnosed and treated, my husband and I thought that we must be really bad parents ... despite the fact that I'd raised a wonderful daughter in my first marriage. At times, we didn't like our son, as sad as that is. And before my husband's AD/HD was diagnosed and treated, we had so many fights and I felt so ignored. In the grasp of the emotional pain caused by his behaviors, I forgot the sweet, sweet person underneath, and he came to think that all I ever did was complain. We can't get those years back and we're happily coping now, but how cruel it is that it isn't common knowledge how hard AD/HD can be on adult relationships. So much hurt could be prevented. My husband and I know a young couple who just divorced shortly after marriage because, we think, he has undiagnosed AD/HD and would often forget to pay her the attention she needed. So sad! Before my oldest son’s AD/HD was diagnosed and treated, my husband and I thought that we must be really bad parents … despite the fact that I’d raised a wonderful daughter in my first marriage. At times, we didn’t like our son, as sad as that is. And before my husband’s AD/HD was diagnosed and treated, we had so many fights and I felt so ignored. In the grasp of the emotional pain caused by his behaviors, I forgot the sweet, sweet person underneath, and he came to think that all I ever did was complain. We can’t get those years back and we’re happily coping now, but how cruel it is that it isn’t common knowledge how hard AD/HD can be on adult relationships. So much hurt could be prevented. My husband and I know a young couple who just divorced shortly after marriage because, we think, he has undiagnosed AD/HD and would often forget to pay her the attention she needed. So sad!

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