Where’s That Person You Fell in Love with?

Perhaps that person you fell in love with is still right there by your side. But maybe that person has somehow–inexplicably, strangely, annoyingly–disappeared!

In the last post, we compared the traits that attracted ADHD Partner Survey respondents to their mates, and vice versa. This time, let’s see if those traits continued to be present (or attractive) as the relationship matured. In a nutshell, about half the partners said, “Yes, those traits stayed the same.” As for the other half….not so much.

Oh sure, we know. Everyone’s best behavior slacks off once the honeymoon is over. It’s human nature. Then again, ADHD is sorta human nature, too, but usually to the extreme. Take everything that we humans do on a regular basis–procrastinate, act without thinking, misplace things, lose our tempers–and multiply it by a factor of x (x being the number and severity of ADHD symptoms).

What does all this mean? It means that, for some couples affected by ADHD, that transition from Honeymoon to Letting Your Hair Down seems to happen at warp speed (and I explain why this might be in the book Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?) For still others, it means that you mistook your loved one’s inability to plan with spontaneity. It’s different for everyone. But, in the next post, I’ll share some text responses from the ADHD Partner Survey to shed some light on what type of changes respondents experienced over the course of the relationship– and why.

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